DOES SEX GO TO CHURCH?

Yes! Again, I’m on the one topic that some try to shut out, others are curious about and majority indulge in – Sex. A lot has been said by our elderly concerning this somewhat only erotic verb that screams love and romance between a couple on bed. However, a thought-provoking observation I made left me thinking that they’ve just tip toed around the topic.

It all started with the one time I sat behind the TV to watch the Duvet show on GHOne. Not something I really enjoy, but Afia Schwarzenegger, who was a panelist on the show, got me glued to the segment with her very funny character. She along with Joy Prime’s Premiere show host, Selly Gally were discussing on the topic “What Women Want In Bed”. Along the line, Afia made a comment saying:

“If sex was a crime, there wouldn’t be Songs of Solomon.”

I’m not really her follower but that statement she made stormed my mind with thoughts. Of course, she as well as her sitting colleague did emphasize on the point of doing it with the one you love. Sex is an agreement and so must it be done on mutual grounds and I don’t disrespect that thought at all.

Come to think of it! barely would you walk into a church, sit amongst a congregation and hear a pastor ever preach from the book of Songs of Solomon. Maybe it might have just been my curiosity that pushed me to write this piece but here’s my question…

“Couldn’t we have solved a lot of the rampant sexual activities happening prematurely out of wedlock, if our elders delved a bit deeper into sex education and maybe preach the intended reason or purpose of the book of Songs of Solomon?”

Having pondered over this, I took the time and liberty to read through the chapters in the book (Songs of Solomon) and realized there were a lot of erotic TOs and FROs (punchlines/vibes) in there we could use for our love letters…. frankly speaking; but where was Afia Schwarzenegger driving to with what she said?

Upon further listening and deeper reading, I came to a realization that indeed sex wasn’t a crime but what she, Afia, seem to have hit lightly on is the fact that the chapters and verses of love poems in the book of Songs of Solomon was intended for the sexual relationship between a married man and woman and not just anyone who’s tripped over their feelings and claim they’re in love. Although, there was a light of truth that diverted my thought in an alternate dimension and this time, our elderly came in question.

Seeing how most of us struggle to hold hands with discipline, I noticed that our pastors and other elders we look up to have somehow failed along the way of educating us on sex. All they tell us is “do not do it…it’s not good” and so on but couldn’t they have done more to educate us on how to control it?... how were they able to hold their bodies at their sexually active ages? I feel it’s because they underestimate us by thinking we’re “too young to understand”, but they could have quenched our curiosity to explore if they had touched a bit more on sex.

Condoms only play the safe part but it would be spirit-calming to know that there is more to it than meets the eye else, we would be forced to believe that experience really is a good teacher. So now, over to our dear elderly and Seniors. Not everyone can build self-control if he or she does not know how to. therefore, I believe it would mean a lot if that part of our training is lightened up.